Life lessons helping you take the next step.

//Life lessons helping you take the next step.

Life lessons helping you take the next step.

Life lessons helping you take the next step.

Losing a very dear friend at only 19 years of age came as a huge shock. I was unlucky in that I lost my grandparents very young so this was the first time I had experienced death as an adult. At 21 I graduated from Uni and went to live abroad for a few years, I just felt that life was too short to get bogged down by work and responsibility. I had an amazing time, working my way around Turkey, Crete, Cyprus, Egypt and Tenerife and am a better person for it. However, when I returned to the UK I can honestly say I felt lost. I had no purpose, no direction and no clue on what I wanted to do.

If you can relate to my situation in any way and you too are ready to move forward, I want to remind you that TODAY is the first day of the rest of your life.

For me, I realised that there were certain things holding me back, maybe these things are the same for you…

My Experience…

I was still living like the person I once was in the past. – When times get tough, our worst battle is often between what we remember and what we presently feel.  One of the hardest decisions I ever had to make was whether to stay put, accept life and struggle harder or to take my memories and lessons learned and move on.  Sometimes you must step outside of the person you’ve been, and remember the person you were meant to be, the person you are capable of being, and the person you truly are today.

I was over-thinking and worrying about everything. – When your fears have you looking too deep into things, it creates problems, it doesn’t fix them.  If you think and think and think, you will think yourself right out of happiness, not into it.  Worrying doesn’t take away tomorrow’s troubles, it takes away today’s peace of mind.  Stop over-thinking everything.  Life is too short.

I could never see anything that was wonderful. – I was stuck in regret of the life I thought I should have had, because of this, I was missing the beauty of what I did have.  Not all the puzzle pieces of life fit together at first, but in time you’ll realise they do, perfectly.  So, thank the things that didn’t work out, because they just made room for the things that will.  And thank the ones who walked away from you, because they just made room for the ones who won’t.  Every new beginning comes from something else ending.

I let the judgments of others control my life. – People knew my name but not my story.  They’d heard what I’d done, but never understand what I’d been through.  I learned to take their opinions of me with a grain of salt.  In the end, it’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts.  Sometimes you must do exactly what’s right for you and your life, without caring what your life choices look like to everyone around you who don’t even know you.

The importance of positive thinking.

Once I let go of all the things holding me back and started to live a life built on positive choices I went back to University, qualified a teacher, specialised in parenting and behaviour and went on to be the successful 39-year-old business owner I am today. I have great business and business partner that I would not be able to cope without, a wonderful family, great friends and a brilliant social life. Some people say I am lucky, I say that I am emotionally intelligent, I know what I want, I know what I am worth and I am not afraid to go out there and fight for it, I hope you can do the same.

I was over-thinking and worrying about everything. – When your fears have you looking too deep into things, it creates problems, it doesn’t fix them.  If you think and think and think, you will think yourself right out of happiness, not into it.  Worrying doesn’t take away tomorrow’s troubles, it takes away today’s peace of mind.  Stop over-thinking everything.  Life is too short.

I could never see anything that was wonderful. – I was stuck in regret of the life I thought I should have had, because of this, I was missing the beauty of what I did have.  Not all the puzzle pieces of life fit together at first, but in time you’ll realise they do, perfectly.  So, thank the things that didn’t work out, because they just made room for the things that will.  And thank the ones who walked away from you, because they just made room for the ones who won’t.  Every new beginning comes from something else ending.

I let the judgments of others control my life. – People knew my name but not my story.  They’d heard what I’d done, but never understand what I’d been through.  I learned to take their opinions of me with a grain of salt.  In the end, it’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts.  Sometimes you must do exactly what’s right for you and your life, without caring what your life choices look like to everyone around you who don’t even know you.

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About the Author:

Maxine has a wealth of experience in teaching, training and development, primarily for disadvantaged families and the organisations that support them. A training design specialist, who has managed and delivered numerous and wide ranging training packages across the UK. Her work has led to 2 national awards for learning and development and country wide recognition from the Family and Parenting Institute, a field she has a significant and invaluable track record in. Approved by children and adult safeguarding boards Maxine is our safeguarding specialist focusing on Multi-agency partnerships and networks to ensure safeguarding is everyone’s responsibility.